A young man in his early forties who had a look at one of my recent articles, came asking the other day, “Sir, your latest issue suggests that human beings are empowered to be the architects of their destiny. Then how come I am not having my way in my bid to get legally separated from my estranged wife despite best of my efforts?” “It appears that you have just picked up the headline of a particular article, but not cared to get to the true import of what has been explained in four serialised issues,” I responded.
True, you enjoy the freedom to shape your destiny. That, however, doesn’t entitle you to move to your whims and fancies. If you have freedom of choice, it would not mean that you can just set up a shop in the middle of a public road and disturb traffic flow. Remember, the living world is made in a way where no individual can meet even one’s existential needs by oneself. You need societal support even for your bare survival. In such an interdependent framework, the world won’t move just to your asking. You can’t afford to conduct in a way that in any way unsettles societal order.
It, therefore, becomes incumbent upon us to discriminate between “what we want” and “what is right”, before we make any move. Otherwise, you become vulnerable to pick up a wrong lead, evidently not only detrimental to collective well-being but even to the self. Only a purified mind, free from any preconditioning whatsoever, qualifies to make the right choices in life. The paradox, however, is that invariably we are all born with a preconditioned mind bound by predefined parameters, and not open to look beyond for better options if any available. That limits the scope of one’s vision. One, therefore, often fails to look at issues in hand in the right perspective due, and with obvious consequences.
In so far as the man in question is concerned, a look at his astrological pointers suggests that he has been a victim of his own doing. Bound by habit tendencies, he never cared for his wife’s sensibilities and concerns. He rather lived in a demanding mode. With passage of time, the relationship went from bad to worse. Finally, when pushed to the wall, his wife has begun challenging him, something very difficult for his egotistical mind to digest. So, he is now trying to break the relationship at any cost. He was born when fiery and movable sign Aries sign was rising with its lord Mars posited in another fiery sign Sagittarius. That primarily makes out an impulsive, aggressive, irritable, impatient, intolerable, touchy, and a domineering person. He prefers to be at the head of everything. The lagna lord Mars placed adverse to expansive Jupiter speaks of his inflated ego, not open to listening or counselling. He remains stuck to his preconceived notions. Impulsively, he gets into an act without applying proper forethought. It’s only when he lands into a problem that he applies his mind. Mars also placed adverse to its dire enemy Saturn accounts for his bad temper, suspicious nature, and revengeful tendencies. Mars, again, ill-disposed off to Uranus makes him temperamental.
The Sun, ill-disposed off to Moon makes him emotional and sensitive. He may get over trivial issues and stretch it beyond due for long. This combination also makes him vulnerable to emotional conflicts and thereby disharmony with those around. Moon occupying Capricorn sign, conjunct headless Ketu, also placed adverse to mischievous Neptune, brings in narcissist tendencies. He remains stuck to his self-delusions and may not acknowledge truth on its first appearance. He may rather still prefer going by his own fanciful ideas until pushed to the wall. And when faced with an adverse situation, he may try to find an escape route rather than resolving it head on.
Venus, the lord of the second and seventh house, identified with his marital partner is strongly placed in the seventh house itself. Further, Venus occupies the lunar constellation owned by Jupiter. This implies that his wife is inherently a well-meaning and a self-respecting lady. She won’t tolerate if ever belittled. To sum up, the man is more to be blamed for his marital turbulence than his wife. In the process, his child is suffering for no fault of his. Whatever be the fate of the man’s present marriage, he may not be able to hold on to any new relationship for long, unless he works upon his fault-lines without further loss of time.
The writer is an astrologer, vastu consultant and spiritual counsellor. Write to him at G-102, Bharat Nagar, New Friends Colony, New Delhi – 110 025 Tel: 91-11-49848475/9818037273 Email: pioneerqueries@bharatastro.com Website: www.bharatastro.com
