Someone in mid-forties has been doing exceedingly well in career, but on personal score, he is having a tough time. He came asking the other day: “Sir, when faced with professional callings, I am able to efficiently attend to them with ease and comfort. But even though I am the same person, I am not able to come to terms with my personal life. The past two years have been especially stressful. Suggest me some remedial measure to overcome this problem.”
“Look within, watch out your thought process, and you may have the answer.” I responded. “What does ‘looking within’ mean,” he asked. Well, withdraw your attention from the outer world, turn it inward, and watch out the thoughts flowing within. Self-reflection on those thoughts will give you an insight into the defining principles of mind which drives you through the ongoing life. Remember, the way you perceive a subject matter, is how you act upon them. In so far as your career aspects are concerned, you seem to have clarity in vision and thought. Therefore, you perceive career-related concerns in the right perspective due and attend to them intelligently and put in your best. Also, remain vigilant enough not to cross paths with those who matter and so, you are able to elicit due support. But when it comes to your personal life, your perception seems to be simply flawed and distanced from ground reality. You live in a demanding mode and care the least about the sensibilities and concerns of your partner. You have been conducting unmindfully and therefore, invite your own problem.
Remember, human beings are supposed to guide their actions by choice and discrimination. But, whenever choice comes into play, the probability of its use and misuse become equal. And there is nothing like a free lunch in this world. So, you become liable to bear with the consequences of the choices you make. In career-related matter, you apply proper forethought before making your choice. But when it comes to your personal life, you have been acting unmindfully, and with obvious consequences.
A popular saying laid down below may put forth how mind works in real terms:“Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they translate into action. Watch your actions, they turn into habits. Watch your habits, they form your character. Watch your character as that defines your destiny.”
When you look within and dispassionately look at the thought flow, you may get to know your fault lines. Having identified and acknowledged them, you may make necessary amends through fresh educative inputs, and things may turn better. The irony, however, is that often our ego doesn’t let us dispassionately identify our fault lines. Here, astrology comes handy as an effective diagnostic tool. Let us look at the man’s astrological pointers. The Sun posited in the 10th house identified with his career prospects, makes him a born leader armed with managerial skills. The Sun, well aligned to intellectually ordained Uranus, makes out a genius known for his innovative skills, and therefore, he excels at works.
Presence of headless Ketu and Uranus, both ill-disposed off to intelligence signifying Mercury doesn’t augur well for marital relationship. That makes him eccentric, opinionated, and disoriented. The Sun placed adverse to Mars makes him impulsive, reckless, argumentative, and quarrelsome. Mars conjunct its dire enemy makes him temperamental, malicious, and revengeful. The Sun placed adverse to Saturn gives him a negative bent of mind, makes him self-pitying and pessimistic, and is indicative of an indwelling sense of fear and insecurity. The Sun also ill-disposed off to mischievous Neptune, implies that he remains stuck to his self-delusionary perceptions, distanced from ground realities. He may not acknowledge truth on its first appearance, and rather continue pursuing his fanciful ideas on hope against hope till pushed to the wall. The Sun also placed adverse to Jupiter accounts for his swaggering ego, which limits his scope of vision to self-defined perceptions, and not open to listening or counsel. When put through adverse situation, he may develop inferiority complex as would Mars placed adverse to Neptune mean.
The question now is: How comes these personality traits do not play out on his career matters? He being an intelligent guy knows his limits very well, which if he ever crosses, his business may be hit hard. So, he remains alert enough to conduct mindfully. In personal matter, he takes things for granted as he doesn’t feel threatened anyway. He needs to seek the guidance of a Guru for necessary corrections.
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